Justin Bartels - Impression (2012)
I can’t not reblog this.
This is the best thing on the Internet. We undress everyday and it shows us how confined we are. Those imprints show how uncomfortable we are throughout each day just to impress other people. We create prisons in our own clothes. We are a prisoner in a socially constructed idea of what is beautiful.
yes its back
from "No Means Force" at Dave Hingsburger’s blog.
This is important. It doesn’t just apply to little girls and other children, though it often begins there.
For the marginalized, our “no’s” are discounted as frivolous protests, rebelliousness, or anger issues, or we don’t know what we’re talking about, or we don’t understand what’s happening.
When “no means force” we become afraid to say no.
We were grabbing a bite of lunch at a small cafe, in a mall, right across from a booth that sold jewelry and where ears could be pierced for a fee. A mother approaches with a little girl of six or seven years old. The little girl is clearly stating that she doesn’t want her ears pierced, that’s she’s afraid of how much it will hurt, that she doesn’t like earrings much in the first place. Her protests, her clear ‘no’ is simply not heard. The mother and two other women, who work the booth, begin chatting and trying to engage the little girl in picking out a pair of earrings. She has to wear a particular kind when the piercing is first done but she could pick out a fun pair for later.
"I don’t want my ears pierced."
"I don’t want any earrings."
The three adults glance at each other conspiratorially and now the pressure really begins. She will look so nice, all the other girls she knows wear earrings, the pain isn’t bad.
She, the child, sees what’s coming and starts crying. As the adults up the volume so does she, she’s crying and emitting a low wail at the same time. “I DON’T WANT MY EARS PIERCED.”
Her mother leans down and speaks to her, quietly but strongly, the only words we could hear were ‘… embarrassing me.’
We heard, then, two small screams, when the ears were pierced.
Little children learn early and often that ‘no doesn’t mean no.’
Little children learn early that no one will stand with them, even the two old men looking horrified at the events from the cafeteria.
Little girls learn early and often that their will is not their own.
No means no, yeah, right.
Most often, for kids and others without power, ”no means force.”
interesting how the answers change as the men get younger
Excuse me but this is an amazing short film about a trans boy who struggles with a not-very-understanding parent, and it deserves every award and I am so proud of my generation.
I may or may not be crying
This needs to spread around.
this was fucking powerful. even if you’ve never had this happen in your life or know someone it hits home in so many ways. Super beautiful
|(Please assume by "women"/"female", I mean anyone who identifies as a woman, same goes for men)|
|Heterosexual:||A man sexually attracted to woman and vice versa.|
|Homosexual:||A man sexually attracted to a man or a woman sexually attracted to a woman.|
|Bisexual:||Sexually attracted to two or more genders.|
|Pansexual:||Sexually attracted to all genders.|
|Demisexual:||The sexual behavior of having a bond with a person before having sexual attraction.|
|Asexual:||Having no /sexual attraction/ to others.|
|Heteroromantic:||Attracted romantically to the opposite gender.|
|Homoromantic:||Attracted romantically to the same gender.|
|Biromantic:||Attracted romantically to two or more genders|
|Panromantic:||Attracted romantically to all genders|
|Demiromantic:||Only able to feel romantic affections to someone who has a bond already with you.|
|Aromantic:||Having no /romantic attraction/ to others.|
|Transexual/Transgender (Term depending on generation and location):||An individual who identifies as the opposite gender then the one they are assigned at birth to be. Often shortened to trans|
|Cisgender:||Someone who identifies as the gender that they were assigned as at birth. (ex. matches their birth certificate) Often shortened to cis|
|Intersex:||Someone who has ambiguous genitalia that doesn't fit into our strict dichotomy of uterus or testes. Often forced into surgery to correct their genitals at a very young age, causing psychological and physical harm later in life|
|Nonbinary:||Outside of the gender binary of male and female. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity)|
|Genderqueer:||Outside of the gender binary. (Can be used as an umbrella term or as its own identity, but be wary of using it as an umbrella term because it contains queer, which some people still consider a slur and don't like having it applied to them)|
|Agender:||Someone who doesn't identify as any gender/experiences a lack of gender.|
|Bigender:||Someone who identifies as two separate genders.|
|Genderfluid:||Gender that changes.|
|Demigirl:||Identifying partially as a woman, but not wholly.|
|Demiguy:||Identifying partially as a man, but not wholly.|
|Reblog to inform! And if there's any I missed or anything that should be clarified, please message me! Always looking to expand the proper vocab. :||)|